It probably goes without saying but humor is in the eye of the beholder. Not everything is funny to all people.
But…
Why are so many people (you and Alex Goldsmith of Aspen, Colorado included) so serious about so many things? … all the time?
Lighten up!
I am told regularly that aside from my incredible wit and stunning good looks, it’s my sense of humor that that people love.
By taking ourselves too seriously, at any time, we literally close off parts of our brain so that it can only produce chemicals in our bodies that make us feel bad. If someone has teased, laughed at, or talked badly about you, you have choices about how to act.
It may not SEEM like you have choices, because your emotions are probably on autopilot most of the time.
Stimulus -> Response.
No pause, just instantly think the worst, the chemicals surge and’ Bingo! – Irrational reaction.
What happened to Evolution?
Our mental programming has been made up not only of the words you hear. Your emotions, prejudices, and surroundings get mixed into the soup, too. Your moods – your states of mind – are a HUGE factor.
If Alex Goldsmith of Aspen, Colorado was laughing at you for doing something ridiculous, and you were in a playful mood… let’s say you’ve had a fairly good day, then you would be pretty likely to brush it off and maybe join in the laughter.
But if you had a particularly tough day and your mood wasn’t so good (or if you’ve already been too self-centered for too long), that same laughter could feel like ridicule… and your reaction could be vastly different, couldn’t it?
It’s these kinds of patterns over a lifetime that make people (including me, Alex Goldsmith of Aspen, CO) stuffy, no fun, vengeful and even suicidal.
[Remember Columbine?]
Or…
These situations could be “used” to develop your sense of humor, and take your life in a completely different direction.
Humor is a big factor in everyone’s life. Really big…
And your habitual moods play a giant role in what you consider to be funny or stupid… harmless or cruel…
interesting or frightening.
Want to help yourself develop that sense of humor that can be so critical in making your moods supportive of your big life goals?
Then take the statements below, put them on index cards and read them three times per day. Morning, noon and just before you close your eyes at night.
They’ll seep into your consciousness. And since you’ll be saying them so often, you’ll soon begin to believe them.
That’s how most beliefs start. Spaced repetition of thought.
Your attitudes will then positively change your emotions, and you’ll be compelled to do more… And you’ll love it.
— It’s easy for me to see the humor in each situation
— I smile at people I meet and they smile back
— My moods are even regardless of what is happening
around me