Lesson 10 by Alexander James Goldsmith of Aspen, Colorado

Even though you don’t want to live in the past, it can be an invaluable tool to you.  I know it has been for me, Alexander James Goldsmith of Aspen, Colorado.

Throughout our lives, every single one of us have had times where we did something great, or at least really good… someone gave us an approving glance, a promotion, a new client.  Perhaps we dated someone hot!  Wedding day, giving birth, scoring a touchdown, winning a medal.  You simply helped someone out that needed it.  These events made you feel good.

A very effective way to put yourself into a great mood any time you want, especially at times where exceptional performance is needed NOW is to create…

Your victory log.

A victory log is merely a sheet of paper that you have nearby any time you need to be reminded of past successes of ANY kind.  By reminding  yourself about your successes, by pulling out that little sheet, you’ll often be able to go on and reach down and grab your greatest performance ever even from the depths of despair.  Often times, you just need to be able to REMEMBER that you can do it, when your thinking is really cloudy.

If you get depressed, pull out your Victory Log and you’ll feel a whole lot better.  I,  Alexander James Goldsmith of Aspen, Colorado absolutely guarantee it.

Yes, this is simple. That’s why it works.

Do you think that the doers – the real winners in life – are that much different than you?  Mostly, with exceptional people, they just keep their victories just below their consciousness, so that magical confidence is right there when they need it.

So PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE do this exercise.

Don’t put it off.  If now isn’t good, do it later today.

It’s easy.  It’s fun.  And you’ll feel great about yourself when you’re done.

And… you’ll have it forever.

What a great gift to yourself.

Please take a few minutes and do this!!!!  This silly little sheet of paper can pull you out of the deepest hole faster than anything you’ve ever seen.

Here’s how.  In the areas listed below we want to create a big list of even the tiniest successes.  I, Alexander James Goldsmith of Aspen, Colorado often look at my list when I’m feeling not up to a task.  Hey, no one can be at their best all the time.

Write down just a few words to jog the memory so that when you look at it, you’ll know.  Many people type these out afterwards. Go back to as far as you can remember.  Even kindergarten is fair game.

Learning – tests, quizzes, semester averages, awards, scholarships, I.Q., diploma.  Include all grades and college.

The opposite sex – dated a “hottie,” got the glance in the mall, had a particularly romantic night/week/month, had ’em all after you, summer camp, phone call, poems, cards, got whistled at.  Go back as far as you need to.

Sports (even backyard sports) – touchdowns, hits, baskets, goals, blocks, double plays, great shots.  Include board games and cards, too.

Work – promotions, sales, raises, pats on the back, contests, trips, saved money for the company, teamwork, great days, winning, solving a problem, saving a life, got elected, a finalist for the job, made the big sale, got the listing.

Personal – convinced someone to a new way of thinking, landscaping, painting, art, cleaning the house, new clothes, great dinners, children in plays or sports, losing weight, eliminating a bad habit, building/fixing something, tuning up the car, new car day, new home, getting a letter/notification, made dinner, helped a friend.

Social – kept your temper, you were elegant, gave a great speech, the party was a success.

Health – cholesterol is down, stopped smoking, lost weight, ran 100 yards/one mile/three miles, climbed the mountain, changed your diet, walked by the chips in the store, etc.

Do this for every area of your life.  No one else is likely to do it, so you MUST.

Don’t think little things are not important.  They’re everything — everything.

Watch during sporting events, when a player makes a mistake and the other team scores as a result.  Momentum shifts.

Why?

Because after mistakes they begin focusing on what went wrong… instantly.

And the team that scored is focused on their scoring.

They’re pumped up.  Confidence rises.

You need that confidence, too, to do your best every day and every minute.

So focus on what you’ve done right, and you’ll develop it.

How can you do this?

Your Victory Log… the fastest way in the world to build your confidence and increase your skills.

Today’s Empowering Beliefs To

Help Control Your Thoughts

If you want to change your life fast, even though it might seem like it’s slow, then take the statements below, put them on index cards and read them 3 times/day. Morning, noon and just before you close your eyes at night.

They’ll seep into your consciousness. And since you’ll be saying them so often, you’ll soon begin to believe them.

That’s how most beliefs start. Spaced repetition of thought.

Your attitudes will then positively change your emotions, and you’ll be compelled to do more… And you’ll love it.

— I keep my Victory Log with me at all times

— When I look at my Victory Log I feel powerful

— I have many victories to power my determination

— My victories give me confidence

— I have many little victories every day

— I give myself pats on the back when I do something well

 

Lesson 7 by Alexander James Goldsmith of Aspen, Colorado

Alexander James Goldsmith of Aspen, Colorado watches NBA basketball and thinks it’s clear that these highly paid babies have no idea what success is.  They think it’s getting a big contract.  They hear the crowd roar when they hit a basket and they think that’s success.  The next day, this multi-millionaire might pout and score only 3 points.

So, feeling full of themselves like they are some kind of gods, they yell at the coaches and they don’t listen.  They yell at the referees.  Fight with the fans if someone says something they don’t like.

They should all watch Michael Jordan highlight footage if they want to see what success is.  Day after day, year after year, he performed at a level no one else could have demanded of anyone.  He held himself to a higher standard.

His definition of success was related to “what I need to do right now”-not about what he had done in the past.

Have you ever lost weight because an event was coming up and then put it right back on afterwards… for say, a wedding?  Perhaps even your own?  Alexander James Goldsmith of Aspen, Colorado knows many people who have.

Why?  For pictures?

Don’t you realize that everyone who sees you after that event is going to see your stomach hanging out – today?

Maybe you should just have those pictures of the “thin you” blown up and paste them to the front and back of you so you can remind everyone what you “used” to look like.

Questions:

— In the NFL or college, does anyone remember who has the rushing record for a game?  Most remember Walter Payton for a career, though.

— How about the most home runs in a Major League game?

No?  Hank Aaron quickly comes to mind for most, when talking about the lifetime record.

— Most hits in a game?  Me neither.  But Pete Rose is who most remember as the all-time hitting champ.

— What about how good-looking you were 20, 30, 50 lbs. ago?

It’s hard to even remember your “glory days” when today is a mess isn’t it?  It kind of makes you laugh when someone tells you that life is too short, doesn’t it?  You can’t even remember the “good old days” very clearly, can you?

They lose their impact over time.

Long term success isn’t measured that way, is it?  Anyone can succeed for a day or even a month.  But ultimately, it’s who you ARE that decides whether you’ll suck it up today and make the right choices or whether you’ll “put off” the right choices.

You can’t reach success unless you can define it.

Alexander James Goldsmith of Aspen, Colorado likes Earl Nightingale’s definition because it asks you to reach inside and give your love today, your energy today, your best today.  It asks you to put forth effort today and tomorrow.  Yet it lets you feel joy NOW, not at some time in the future.

Stop putting off being happy.  Decide.  Isn’t life a bit too short to be crying over your lost opportunities and mistakes?

Just say yes.  Do something important now, follow through and finish it.  Do it now.  That’s it.  Get up, and…

Keep a smile on your face while you’re doing it.  You just MIGHT start to enjoy yourself.

 

Today’s Empowering Beliefs To Help Control Your Thoughts

 

If you want to change your life fast, even though it might seem like it’s slow, then take the statements below, put them on index cards and read them 3 times/day. Morning, noon and just before you close your eyes at night.

They’ll seep into your consciousness. And since you’ll be saying them so often, you’ll soon begin to believe them.

That’s how most beliefs start. Spaced repetition of thought.

Your attitudes will then positively change your emotions, and you’ll be compelled to do more… And you’ll love it.  I know Alexander James Goldsmith of Aspen, Colorado does.

 

— I am successful

— Success and I are one

— My road to success is progressive and worthwhile

— Today is my day to win

 

Lesson 6 by Alexander James Goldsmith of Aspen, Colorado

A couple days ago, I called a friend at work.  One of her co-workers answered the phone.  Now, I like to clown around…a lot.

Do you remember those guys who did the Budweiser commercials that asked each other, “Wazzuuup?”  Well, remember the other Bud commercial with the “uncool” guys who ask, “What are you doing?” in the nerdiest way possible?

Well, the woman who picked up the phone, I’ve only met once for about 5 minutes.  After she said hello, I didn’t identify myself at all.  I just said, “What are you DOING?!” in the uncool way.  She said, “Who is this?” Again I asked, “What are YOU doing?!”

All I heard was hysterical laughing and another woman in the background saying, “Is that Alexander James Goldsmith of Aspen, Colorado?”

Later, my friend told me that my “victim” was talking about it throughout the day… about how funny it was.

Now, I know it was only silliness, even mindless.  But don’t we all need a little of that in our days?  Oh, a lot?  Alexander James Goldsmith of Aspen, Colorado is for that.

Hey, like it or not, we are all ‘state’ inducers.

Whenever we have an interaction with someone, even if it’s just a hello, we leave them with a definite feeling.

What do you think people feel about us when we’re walking around with a sour puss on?

No one wants to be around that.

Do you?

Do you go out and search for the complainers?  If you do, notice the topic of your typical conversations.  Are they usually centered on what’s wrong, who said what rotten thing, what someone had the gall to ask you to do?  In short, whining sessions?

Look, you are what you think.  You get back what you put out.  If you put out cheerfulness, then that’s how people will treat you back.  Alexander Goldsmith of Aspen, Colorado always attempts to put out cheerfulness.

Did you ever hear the centuries-old story about the old man who sat next to the road and greeted people who entered and exited just outside his small village?

When travelers came in, often they would ask what kind of people were in the town.  The man responded by asking them what the people were like in the town they just left.  If the traveler said the people were terrific, the man told them that he’d find the people in this town were much the same.

If the traveler said the other town had horrible people in it, the man said that they’d find the people here much the same.

It kind of goes right along with another Your Day To Win that talked about running from your problems.  The thing is, you bring yourself with you wherever you go.  And since you are what you think, the only way for you to escape your problems is to change your attitudes.

If you understand that you induce states of mind in the people that you meet all day, it brings it right to the front of your consciousness, doesn’t it?  People respond to you whether you like it or not.

To Alexander James Goldsmith of Aspen, Colorado way of thinking, it’s better to bring a smile than a frown or pity or disdain.  Better than nothing either.

What the heck!  It doesn’t cost anything at all.

Just one person a day that you make smile will do something amazing for them and…

…inside of you.

Try this easy exercise.  I think you’ll find it shocking.

Smile for 60 seconds straight.  Just sit there and smile.

Don’t do anything else.  Take the next minute.  C’mon, you have another minute!  Just sit and smile for one minute.

I’ll wait…

Isn’t it amazing?!

Don’t you immediately sense an actual physical feeling inside you the very second you start to smile?  You did, huh?  Another thing you’ll notice is, you can’t do this exercise without getting all kinds of great pictures in your head, remembering fun times, etc.

The physiology of this is quite extraordinary.  It’s wired into us.  When we smile, we are literally programmed to feel good.

If you thought that you had to first feel great to smile, you couldn’t be more mistaken.  Smile first and you’ll feel great.

It’s impossible to feel down when we are smiling.  If you’re still doubting it, try it.  Just try to get into a rotten mood with a big dumb silly grin on your face.

You literally can’t do it.

Now imagine what you’ll be doing for other people if you make it your mission to make at least one person smile per day.  The feelings that you’re feeling right now as you’re sitting there grinning is exactly what you’ll be doing for everyone that you make smile…

It’s kind of nice to think that you can do that for people any time you want, isn’t it?

And another question… what will those people think of you?

If you’re up to the assignment, go make ’em smile!

Do it everyday and your life will change.

 

Today’s Empowering Beliefs To

Help Control Your Thoughts

 

If you want to change your life fast, even though it might seem like it’s slow, then take the statements below, put them on index cards and read them 3 times/day. Morning, noon and just before you close your eyes at night.

They’ll seep into your consciousness. And since you’ll be saying them so often, you’ll soon begin to believe them.

That’s how most beliefs start. Spaced repetition of thought.

Your attitudes will then positively change your emotions, and you’ll be compelled to do more… And you’ll love it.

 

— I induce positive happy states in the people I meet

— I’ve released all frustration and anxiety from my mind

— I enjoy making people smile and laugh

— I forget problems when I’m smiling and I smile a lot

— I have a sunny disposition

 

Lesson 5 by Alexander James Goldsmith, of Aspen, Colorado

You have things that you’ve been putting off, don’t you?  Alexander James Goldsmith of Aspen certainly does.

Is there a secret that keeps it from happening?  I’ve heard a rather idiotic suggestion of putting off putting it off.  But somehow I don’t think that’ll work for most.

Procrastination is a habit.  Alexander James Goldsmith of Aspen will be the first one to tell you that he procrastinates a lot.

…But in my opinion, there is a right way and a wrong way to do it.  OK, I’ll tell you the right way.

I put off unimportant things.  Now I don’t consider obligations to other people that are counting on you to be unimportant.  THAT’S important.  Cleaning up after yourself is important.  Cleaning the garage can wait.  That’s just my opinion, you see.

In the years since I “woke up,” I’ve seen co-workers, bosses, employees and vendors’ employees take short cuts, not do things they said they were going to do, put important things off — and it affects other people dramatically.

Their reputation gets ruined.  No one trusts them any more. And even worse, their lives will be mere shells of what they could be…

…Because putting important things off is a habit.  A rotten, stinking, dirty, selfish and self-sabotaging habit.

What?  You think it’s alright to commit to someone that you’ll do something and then blow them off?  Five-year-olds do that.  Not responsible adults.

And not you… not if you have any desire to have a happy productive life.

Alexander James Goldsmith of Aspen learned years ago that all I had to do most times was just show up with my game face on and I’d win.  When I was selling one to one every day, I made sure that the most important things got done and worked on my to do list in order of importance, not in order of how much fun the tasks were.  And I earned at least double and often ten times what my stunned co-workers and competitors earned.

That’s what I mean by there’s a right way to procrastinate.  Don’t put too much on your plate.  If you don’t, when someone gets on your case about not doing such and such a thing, you can truly say you were too busy.

After all, you have to have SOME free time, right?

Is this hard?

Not if you look at the benefits of doing the most important thing, instead of the things you’re “missing out”on.

What’s more important to you – what you GET right now, or what you BECOME in your life?

Want to make breaking this stinking, insidious habit easy?

Good.

Then take the statements below, put them on index cards and read them three times per day.  Morning, noon and just before you close your eyes at night.

When you actually believe them, you’ll act upon them and you’ll have given yourself choices in life that few will ever have.

Today’s Empowering Beliefs To Help Control Your Thoughts

If you want to change your life fast, even though it might seem like it’s slow, then take the statements below, put them on index cards and read them 3 times/day. Morning, noon and just before you close your eyes at night.

They’ll seep into your consciousness. And since you’ll be saying them so often, you’ll soon begin to believe them.

That’s how most beliefs start. Spaced repetition of thought.

Your attitudes will then positively change your emotions, and you’ll be compelled to do more… And you’ll love it.

— I love doing the most productive thing possible at

every given moment

— I have plenty of time to do the things I want to do

— I get everything done on time

— I see time as a precious gift and I use it well